I Was a Trans Kid So You Don't Have to Be
Jake started T at 16 only after YEARS of therapy & labs. Now kids get hormones in 20-min Zoom calls. The detrans wave is here and it’s going to cost real trans people their care.
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Jake, 31, began medical transition at 16 after years of therapy and careful gatekeeping. He contrasts his cautious, multi-disciplinary pathway with today’s online clinics that dispense testosterone after a 20-minute Zoom intake, warning that relaxed gatekeeping is already producing a surge of detransitioners who were never truly transsexual and that the backlash will endanger access for those with a legitimate medical condition.
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Jake, a 31-year-old trans man living in Chicago, recounts that he began medical transition at 16 after several years of therapy. Raised in a small central-Illinois town by a single, devout Christian mother who worked as a flight paramedic, he describes himself as a classic tomboy who gravitated toward “boy things” and felt from earliest memory that he “should be a boy.” By middle school he was telling adults he was a “masculine lesbian,” but after meeting a trans man who later became his therapist, he learned transition was possible. A cautious, multi-disciplinary evaluation—psychiatrist, psychologist, repeated therapy sessions—preceded his first testosterone shot in July 2009, the summer before his junior year of high school. His mother, initially fearful, ultimately supported the process, insisting it be done “the right way.” Throughout high school Jake navigated locker-room logistics by taking gym as a summer course and, once his appearance changed sufficiently, was quietly allowed to use the boys’ restroom. Apart from occasional hallway slurs, classmates largely accepted him; he attributes this to already looking “like a chubby guy.” After graduating he moved to Chicago around 2013–2014 and began noticing what he calls the “umbrella-ification” of trans identity: terms like “non-binary,” “gender-fluid,” and “trans-masculine” appeared, diluting the specificity he felt as a transsexual man. Attending local support groups, he found himself surrounded by people “not even trying to pass” who expected automatic pronoun compliance and accused him of “perpetuating cis-normativity.” The experience left him feeling alienated: “I should not feel uncomfortable going to a group for trans people and feeling like I don’t belong.” Jake contrasts his careful, years-long pathway—blood work before every dosage adjustment, extensive informed-consent paperwork, multiple surgeries—with today’s “20-minute Zoom intake” online clinics that mail testosterone without labs. He worries that relaxed gatekeeping is producing a surge of detransitioners who were never truly transsexual and fears the backlash will endanger access for those with “a legitimate medical condition.” He completed top surgery at 19 and, after a hysterectomy and staged genital surgeries (metoidioplasty followed by phalloplasty with nerve hookup and erectile implant), now considers his transition “done.” Engaged to a trans woman, he describes a “trans power couple” dynamic in which he supports her through earlier stages of transition while continuing to advocate that medical transition remain a rigorously screened, adult decision.