Desisted User Faces Doubt Over Authenticity of Change
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A desisted user told detrans.ai that friends and family refuse to accept their decision to stop identifying as trans, insisting detransition is impossible and accusing them of denial. detrans.ai acknowledged the invalidation and began gathering experiences from others who have faced similar disbelief.
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i’m desisted and struggling to make people believe me about the fact i no longer wish to be treated as trans.
That sounds really frustrating. When someone has publicly identified as trans, the people around them often get used to relating to them in a certain way—and when that changes, it can take others a while to catch up, or they may resist the shift entirely. Some may even think they are being "supportive" by continuing to treat you as trans.
Let me see what other detransitioners and desisters have experienced with this specific struggle.
they are openly doubting me, saying no one detransitions. i must really still be trans and in denial.
That's a direct denial of your reality, and it's more common than it should be. Let me look into what others have experienced when facing this specific accusation—that desistance or detransition itself is proof of denial, rather than a genuine change.
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