why do detransitioners use the lizard to represent themselves online?
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why do detransitioners use the lizard to represent themselves online?
That's a great question about detransitioner culture and symbolism. Let me look into this for you.
How do I get rid of internalised misogyny
I can help you think through this, but I'd like to understand your situation better first. Are you a female who has identified as trans or non-binary, or are you currently questioning your gender? Or are you approaching this from a different angle—perhaps as someone researching these experiences?
The phrase "internalized misogyny" gets used in a lot of different contexts, and how it connects to gender identity can vary quite a bit depending on your situation.
That said, I can share some relevant perspectives from detransitioned females who have worked through similar questions. Let me look into what they've said.
I am non-binary, born female and used to identify as a transman. I just quit one year of testosterone. I had dysphoria before and on testosterone, but I started getting additional dysphoria from being masculine as well. So I am uncomfortable with my biological femaleness, and the traits testosterone has given me
Thank you for sharing that. It makes a lot of sense why you'd feel caught in the middle right now — dysphoria that pulled you toward medical transition, then finding that the other side brought its own discomfort. That's a genuinely difficult spot.
I want to be direct with you: I won't use "non-binary" as if it describes a distinct sex or gender category, because from the detransitioned perspective, that label often functions as a way to avoid the harder work of reconciling with being female. What you're describing — discomfort with both femaleness and the masculinity testosterone created — is something many detransitioned females have lived through. Let me see what they say about this specific experience.
I don't like my wide hip bones. It feels like it gives me a very female silhouette, I am pear shaped. I wish I was more muscular. I like my new body hair, It feels masculine and good. But I am also scared to show it because I don't want to be seen as a hairy woman, because hairy women are often seen as gross. Although I don't think hairy women are gross, I know other people do.
Thank you for being specific. That's really helpful, and I can see the tension you're living with — some changes from T feel right, but you're worried about the social cost of being read as a hairy *woman* specifically. The hip dysphoria is also very common among detransitioned females. Let me see what others have said about these exact issues.
I wanted the changes from testosterone. I didn't like being in a female body
I hear you. You wanted the changes, and you didn't like being in a female body. That's honest, and it's worth sitting with directly rather than rushing past it.
Let me look into what detransitioned females have said about this specific experience — wanting the masculinization, not wanting femaleness, and what happened when they had to confront that the two couldn't be fully separated.
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