I Became Transgender. Here's Why I Regret It.
I lived as Laura for 8 yrs after hormones & surgery. The cure for my childhood abuse scars was therapy, not irreversible drugs and a scalpel. Kids deserve real help, not lifelong regret.
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Walt Heyer recounts how childhood sexual abuse and cross-dressing led to an adult diagnosis of gender identity disorder, hormones, and surgery that left him living as “Laura Jensen” for eight years. After addiction treatment and a spiritual awakening, he de-transitioned 30+ years ago and now warns families that medical transition is “unnecessary” and harms children.
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Walt Heyer recounts that his first cross-dressing experience occurred at age four, when his grandmother—who worked as a seamstress—made him a purple chiffon dress and repeatedly praised how “cute” he looked in it. Heyer says the compliments quickly became addictive, leading him to hide the dress at home so he could wear it in secret. When his mother eventually discovered the garment, the revelation ignited a family crisis: his father, furious at both his mother-in-law and his son, began disciplining the boy with a hardwood floor plank, and an adopted uncle, “Uncle Fred,” used the knowledge as a pretext to sexually abuse him. By the time he was ten, Heyer describes himself as “a broken child,” convinced that life might be easier if he were a girl—a belief he now interprets as an attempt to escape the abuse rather than an authentic identity. As an adult, Heyer married, fathered two children, and built a successful career—first as an associate design engineer on the Apollo space missions and later as an executive at American Honda—yet he continued secretly cross-dressing and eventually began appearing in public as a woman. In San Francisco he consulted gender specialist Dr. Paul Walker, who diagnosed him with gender identity disorder and immediately recommended hormones and surgery. Heyer asserts that Walker, a homosexual transgender activist and lead author of what became the WPATH Standards of Care, pushed medical transition as the only treatment, steering him toward irreversible procedures without adequately exploring the childhood trauma underlying his distress. Consequently, Heyer lived for eight years as “Laura Jensen,” a period he now calls “totally insane.” The turning point came during residential treatment for alcohol and drug addiction, when a three-hour therapy session forced him to confront the sexual abuse, emotional damage, and the impact of transition on his family. After writing everything down, his therapist burned the pages in the parking lot, symbolically releasing the past. Heyer then experienced what he describes as a vision of Jesus Christ reaching toward an infant version of himself and promising, “Your life will be safe with me forever.” From that moment, he says, faith became the cornerstone of his recovery. He has now been sober for 35 years, married to his current wife for 24, and de-transitioned for more than 30. Today Walt Heyer devotes his life to warning others. Through his website, SexChangeRegret.com, he counsels parents, detransitioners, and professionals, arguing that gender-change surgery is “unnecessary” and that activists are “lying to people about them being able to change their gender.” He collaborates with psychologists, professors, doctors, and lawyers, and vows to keep speaking out “until the Lord comes and takes me home.”