Detrans Awareness Day 2024 - My Mum TOLD Doctors That My Trans Identity Was Sudden
I was jealous of boys, so they said I was trans. My mother told doctors it was sudden. When I say transition was wrong, they say I lied—but they never asked the right questions, and now they only ask two or three before giving hormones.
Overview
Magda, a Polish detransitioner who joined the trans community in 2006 and took testosterone for roughly seven years before stopping in 2014, describes how her mother told doctors her trans identity was sudden and that she had always presented as a normal girl. She recounts being banned from trans groups for admitting her detransition, the shame that prevented her from telling her parents, and her belief that brief assessments and ideological bias leave many harmed and invisible.
Full Video Summary
Magda explains that in Poland, detransition receives little media attention, and many who cease transitioning simply disappear without announcement, making them invisible to statistics. Some try hormones briefly and stop when they realize it worsens their situation, while others progress to surgery and feel they have destroyed their lives, yet remain silent out of shame. She notes that Polish legal detransition is recorded the same as transition, so reversals are hidden in the data. Magda joined trans communities in 2006 and began testosterone around late 2006 or 2007. She told clinicians she had been jealous of boys and had worn large boys’ trousers at age thirteen to hide developing breasts and legs, which was accepted as typical of trans people. However, she says she never wanted to be a boy; by half of high school she had grown out of that phase and looked very feminine. She acknowledges receiving guidance on what to emphasize and what to omit to obtain hormones faster, but insists she did not invent her history. She stresses that her mother accompanied her and explicitly told specialists the identity was sudden and that her daughter had always looked and behaved like a normal girl, yet the clinicians proceeded anyway. When Magda decided to stop testosterone in 2014, members of the trans community told her it was unwise to stop after starting, and some doctors encouraged her to continue. She felt too ashamed to tell her parents she wanted to revert because she had fought so hard to prove transition was right for her. After she publicly admitted she was detransitioning and sought a specialist to help legally restore her true ID, she was banned from trans groups without warning. She observes that many vulnerable people with little real-life support join these communities, and the fear of losing their only social network keeps them quiet about their doubts. Magda argues that surveys are methodologically flawed because they ask for pronouns and offer only fixed answers framed in trans language, which detransitioners find traumatic and which prevent them from stating that they realized the entire idea was wrong. She believes social affirmation only strengthens confusion and pushes individuals toward medicalization, and advises parents to support their children without affirming a new identity. She also urges the public not to humiliate detransitioners, warning that harsh judgment drives them into hiding. Finally, she notes that some gay and lesbian people are drawn into trans ideology because they believe it will bring greater acceptance.