Changer de sexe, l'erreur de sa vie...(La DÉTRANSITION) #54
I changed sex because a psychiatrist called me gay and I panicked. Seven years later I realized I was just running from learning to love myself. Transition is a lifetime choice—don’t let them rush you through it in six weeks.
Overview
Marjo, a 31-year-old Canadian, recounts transitioning to female in 2016 after brief psychological assessment and living as Marie-Joël for seven years before detransitioning around 2022. He now identifies as non-binary while representing as male, keeping breast implants but rejecting further surgery. He warns that transition was an easy escape from self-acceptance, criticizes affirming clinicians for abandoning patients, and urges young people to take far more time before making irreversible decisions.
Full Video Summary
Marjo, a 31-year-old from Lévis, Québec, recounts his journey from male to female and back. His transition began around 2016 after a psychiatrist suggested he might be homosexual; at the time he had no sexual experience and felt largely asexual. Shocked by the suggestion, he did further psychological work and soon wondered if he was simply in the wrong body. The medical process moved with startling speed: after roughly three hour-long sessions with a specialized psychologist over about six weeks, he was cleared for estrogen and testosterone blockers. An endocrinologist explained the risks—sterility, reduced libido, softer erections—but he proceeded. He spent seven intense years living as Marie-Joël, working as a nursing assistant and in construction, playing women’s volleyball, and presenting fully as a woman. He was socially accepted but gradually felt discomfort, particularly about his physical advantage in women’s sports, and paid heavily out of pocket for laser hair removal and breast augmentation. By 2022, Marjo felt something was fundamentally wrong. He quit women’s volleyball and stepped away from feminine activities, realizing he no longer felt like representing a woman. Today he detransitions while embracing a mixed, non-binary presentation—representing as a man but retaining feminine traits such as longer hair and breast implants, which he sometimes considers removing but has kept for now. He never underwent vaginoplasty, though he came close, and since stopping female hormones he has experienced the return of male characteristics such as body hair, beard growth, and sexual desire. He also describes bureaucratic hassles with legal documents marked non-binary, which complicated his passport and driver’s license. Marjo criticizes the speed of his transition, noting that a mere three hours of assessment effectively determined his destiny. He believes that for some, changing sex becomes an easy escape from the harder work of learning self-love and managing mental health, and that social trends and overly affirming clinicians—who he feels should challenge patients with difficult advice rather than simply approve—push people toward irreversible choices. He insists that true gender dysphoria exists but is rarer than currently portrayed, and that transition is a life-altering decision requiring far more time and caution. He now speaks openly to raise awareness, hoping to spare others from hasty decisions while navigating his own ongoing journey with body image, legal bureaucracies, and identity.