Detransitioning
Detransition isn’t just regret—it’s grief over irreversible damage: a voice forever lowered, the chance to breastfeed gone. The medical industry moves on; you live with the scars.
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Mikayla Silverthorn shares her journey of detransition, mourning irreversible changes like a permanently deepened voice and the inability to breastfeed, while urging others to see detransition as an act of courage. She offers spiritual and practical guidance—let go of identity labels, stop chasing external validation, and focus on small joys—to help detransitioners rebuild a life after regret.
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In her video “Detransitioning,” Mikayla Silverthorn speaks directly to people who, like herself, have reversed a gender transition and are now navigating the emotional and social aftermath. She emphasizes that the process is far more than a medical reversal; it is a profound identity crisis compounded by regret over permanent bodily changes and by the fear that others will now question one’s judgment. Mikayla acknowledges the grief of realizing that choices such as taking testosterone or having surgery cannot be undone—she personally mourns the likelihood that she will never be able to breastfeed and that her singing voice has permanently deepened. Yet she insists that these losses do not define a person’s worth or future. Central to her message is the assertion that choosing to detransition is itself an act of bravery. Mikayla argues that it takes more courage to admit a mistake and change course than it did to transition in the first place, especially when social circles may still insist that one “should” remain transgender. She urges viewers to stop seeking external validation: “You don’t need other people’s approval… You need to gain your own approval.” When strangers misgender her—she notes that hairy armpits and an unplucked brow still prompt some to read her as male—she reframes the discomfort as their problem, not hers, and encourages detransitioners to let such judgments roll off them. Mikayla also tackles the spiritual dimension of detransition. She describes identity labels as temporary scaffolding that can be dismantled: “You don’t need an identity. You are perfect as you are.” Drawing on metaphors of clearing away an “old shit shack” to build a “beautiful castle,” she insists that life after detransition can be richer precisely because the experience forces a deeper reckoning with what truly brings joy. Practical advice is woven throughout: go outside and notice stars or butterflies, sew bags if sewing brings happiness, and focus on passions that serve others without harming anyone. By shifting attention from what has been lost to what can still be created, she believes detransitioners can move from despair to a “bright new future.” Finally, Mikayla distinguishes between unconditional love and conditional approval. She recounts that the people who truly cared for her neither praised her transition nor shamed her detransition; they simply remained present. While she openly disagrees with the ideology that encouraged her to transition and reserves sharp criticism for the medical industry, she refuses to shame individuals who are currently transitioning or who identify as transgender. Her closing plea is for self-compassion: “It’s okay to mess up… You can fall down and get back up.” By affirming that every person remains “a spiritual being having a human experience,” she offers detransitioners a framework for healing that transcends both regret and external judgment.