Explaining My Early Detransition Thoughts
At 19, Elle stopped testosterone after realizing transition had buried her trauma and left her fearing no one would ever love her as a ‘trans male.’ Her journals capture the moment she chose detransition to reclaim her body and life.
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Elle Palmer reads her untouched freshman journal from August–October 2019, revealing the exact week she chose to stop testosterone and detransition. Raw entries show her fear that “as a trans male, no one that I am attracted to will ever want me,” a two-column list weighing testosterone’s effects against “estrogen/feminine perks,” and the morning she wrote, “I realized today that I am a woman.” She links the decision to buried trauma, dulled emotions on T, and the realization that transition was never leading her to self-acceptance.
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In “Explaining My Early Detransition Thoughts,” Elle Palmer opens her freshman-year journal from August–October 2019 and narrates the exact week she decided to stop identifying as Luke and begin detransitioning. Reading the pages aloud for the first time since writing them, she revisits Day 11 of college—10 days after move-in—when she was still signing “Lucas Palmer” but already sensing that “being trans wasn’t leading me down that path of self-acceptance.” A long entry from 29 August captures her raw fear that “as a trans male, no one that I am attracted to will ever want me,” and she closes the paragraph with the desperate line “fuck me. I hate myself.” That same night she drafted a two-column list titled “what testosterone did” versus “estrogen/feminine perks,” crossing out facial hair and muscles while writing “curves,” “clothes,” and “being in women’s spaces again” on the other side. The next morning, 30 August, she wrote the decisive sentence: “I realized today that I am a woman.” Elle shows how quickly the practical and emotional pieces fell into place once the realization crystallized. She planned to stop testosterone, restart natural estrogen, reclaim her birth name, and adopt she/her pronouns, telling herself, “I miss being a woman. I never really got to” because she had begun hormones at 16. She also links the decision to earlier patterns: after coming out as trans she had destroyed every journal from ages 11–14, convinced she could “rip and tear my feelings away,” but now saw that the coping mechanism had merely buried trauma. Testosterone had dulled her emotions; going off it allowed a “flood” of feeling that felt overwhelming yet necessary. By 31 October she attended a Halloween party and introduced herself as Laurel/Elle instead of Luke, then formally came out to everyone on 1 November. Reflecting six months later, Elle emphasizes that detransition was not an impulsive reversal but the culmination of “thinking about this for months, if not years.” She recognizes that obsessive crushes, fear of limited dating options, and a deep desire to belong in the female community all played roles, yet insists the core motivation was internal: “I will never really be a man… to the people that matter, my potential mates and myself.” She closes the video by stating that while strangers still sometimes read her as male, she has re-learned self-worth independent of outside validation: “I am my own person… as long as I like myself, I don’t care what other people see.”